Preparing for the change. Kinda sounds like a biological transformation when you think about it. (Another time for that convo.) I’m referring to the impact of a child taking flight from a parent’s nest to spread their wings and independently navigate the world (i.e., leave home!).
Few transitions in life are as significant and powerful as the moment a child leaves home. Whether for college, work, or to start a new life of their own, this is a pivotal intersection where children shift from dependency to becoming self-sufficient. When children leave the nest, typically they’re a little nervous, but mostly ecstatic. While the parents, well, let’s just say it can definitely be lots of emotional turbulence — hence, the change.
Parents often rely on their children for a sense of identity, daily rhythm and routines, and even feeling purposeful. Transitioning away from that meaning of life can really be hard for some. But we have to prepare for it. Besides, transition can be awesome.
Very soon, my husband and I will officially acquire the title of empty nesters (insert lots of emotions here)! Of course it’s bittersweet, but overall, we’re thrilled. As my sweet daughter (and youngest child) heads to college this fall, I’m excitedly preparing for new possibilities. Right after I take a moment to celebrate the parental work, wins, and journey (and I would add financial freedom, but we all know better than that). Some things I’m looking forward to:
- More unique and intentional travels on my bucket list
- Increased time to indulge in my favorite hobbies and pursue new ones
- Reinvesting in my career and explore new professions and skills as part of lifelong learning
- Reconnecting more with “me”
- Continue impacting lives through volunteer service and servant leadership
The possibilities are limitless. By the way, empty nester doesn’t mean lonely or unfulfilled. It means quieter. It means renewal, rediscovery, and rededication — what I need to deepen my exploration of who I am truly purposed to be.
Their stories will evolve after the nest, and you will continue to support them. And while it’s not always easy…let them soar.
In each issue of Memphis Parent, we are careful to keep the conversation and resources impactful and geared towards what we believe matters most to parents — being successful at raising a healthy and prosperous family. Parenting is real, and it is hard. And we get it. But you are not alone, my friend.
This summer, we’re celebrating our 2026 Class of 10<20 — an impactful group of youth who intentionally roll up their sleeves to serve others. Plus, check out some other great features on foster care journeys, emotional impact of family illness, fun ideas for children spending summer days with the grands, Mother’s Day gift guide, celebrating outstanding teachers, and more. Have a wonderful summer of exploring possibilities.
Keep parenting!
Erika Cain
Editor